Here are a few tips to keep in mind if you are engaged in a mentoring relationship:



1. Broaden your Definition of the Term “Mentor”



Another term for mentor could be “learning partner.” We can learn from people older and younger than us. You should select a mentor who can help you with specific concerns like conflict resolution, etc.



Select them based on their knowledge.



2. Build a Board of Mentors



Sometimes, you may want a female mentor. Sometimes you prefer a male. Mentors may come from all walks of society, including professional organizations, alumni groups, community groups and women’s forums.



3. Vive la Difference



Find someone who is different from you. Look for differences. It’s okay to not be comfortable with the mentor you have. Embrace differences and learn from different perspectives.



4. Market Yourself to a Prospective Mentor



Learn the outside interests of this mentor. Maybe the two of you like some form of music, or jogging. You may offer a new area of interest to the mentor. Both of you could learn from each other.



5. Take your Mentoring in Small Doses



Approach your prospective mentor slowly. And be specific with your ask. ”I need some help in marketing segmentation.” “I need to improve my networking skills.” Don’t be a pest to the mentor. Know when to leave.