The job seeker's emotional state may be more fragile than usual when feelings of self-esteem and security are under attack, which can bring out the worst characteristics. A loss of normal interests, distancing of friendships, withdrawal or isolation, and overindulgence in habits may also occur when the job seeker is feeling overwhelmed.

The people close to the job seeker experience many of the same feelings when first coming to grips with a loved one's career crisis. This includes shame, fear, anger, upset, worry, and relief. Many times people don't want anyone to know they have lost their job due to pride, but the more people looking for you the better the chances of finding a good job. Recognize that things may be challenging for a while and everyone gets through hard times. Most families and friendships are stronger as a result of going through difficult times together.

Talk to your family and friends about your job transition circumstances. Be honest and tell them what is going on. Keep them informed. The job changer's decision impacts everybody involved. Keeping communication open is a key to successful career transition. There is no doubt that having a job can eliminate strain in relationships that results from how to pay the bills, how to spend a day, etc. Active employment can also thwart off increasing alcohol and other drug consumption during a period of unemployment. Try and remember that your circumstances are temporary and keep communication open with your spouse, children, parents, and friends.

A spouse is usually the first person to hear the news that an individual has been fired or laid off, or wants to change jobs. Job transition may improve, add stress to, or have little effect on the relationship. A layoff or job change may create new stress in the relationship. This usually occurs when one partner has a different idea about how the unemployed partner should get a new job or meet fiscal obligations. In spite of their loving kindness and suggestions (which are probably meant to be helpful), their best advice may not work for you. It is important to balance common goals for the marriage and the goals of each person finding his or her respective career path. Each person must experience joy in his or her day-to-day work (whether outside the home or as a homemaker) in order to bring joy into the relationship. When one person is unhappy in an unsuitable job, it can bring turmoil to the relationship.

Family, friends, and acquaintances can project their own fears, attitudes about work, and job insecurities onto you. They may have all sorts of ideas and advice that does not fit for you. Your job change circumstances may trigger their employment and money issues. They may, for example, suggest that you get any job in order to bring immediate resolution to the situation, regardless of whether it will bring you dissatisfaction. Avoid the temptation to satisfy other people and be true to yourself in your search for satisfying work. More than anything though, know that loved ones' suggestions are usually well intended.

The friends and family in your life have their own challenges to deal with so be careful not to overly tax the relationships. They simply will not be able to "be there" for you all the time, even when you really want to be supported. The confusing part about acquiring comfort and support from those closest to you is that you never know for sure when it might be forthcoming. One time when we discuss our career situation, you might be uplifted, but the next time you may be left on the ground.

Be thankful for the support they provide when they can. Your loved ones probably want to help you as much as possible, but may nevertheless fall short as a trained Career Counselor.